Tuesday, January 29, 2008

Checking in...

Hey, all. I've been scarce again the past few days; family comes first, you know?

I have been so weighed down with family matters lately that I haven't had much uplifting to say. While I will gripe about crazy drivers and even my crazy kids sometimes, when it comes to serious matters, I don't feel comfortable sometimes laying it all there.

But today, my internet friends, I'd like to ask for your prayers. My Tinkerbell needs your prayers.

Tinker has an awful teacher who picks on her unmercifully. And I am not one of those crazy, overprotective mothers. THIS teacher is mean. THIS teacher yells at the class on a regular basis. THIS teacher criticizes Tink to the point that my formerly confident, even selfish 6-year-old now feels worthless and ugly. And THIS teacher has created an environment in her classroom that makes my Tink feel like she's back at The Shelter. And that is the most horrible thing in my Tink's short memory.

The Shelter. The Emergency Children's Shelter that my daughters were in three times in one year. The Shelter where they lived for two months, even though the time limit is 30 days, before we were chosen to be their parents. The time limit is 30 days because living in The Shelter is traumatic. There were caring staff members there who took very good care of my girls. But there were no parents. There was no stability. Just fear.

My two big girls still lay in bed at night wondering where they'll go next, even though they've been in our home 3 years, and ADOPTED for over 2 years. They still wonder. And worry.

Tink has dreams almost every night about shelters and parents dying and grandparents dying and if that happens, then who will take care of me? Please pray for her.

Yes, I've spoken with the school administration, and are waiting for some results, but in the meantime, please just pray.

Thanks, y'all. I appreciate you.

12 comments:

Meredith said...

How awful.

Your Tink will be in my prayers!

Anonymous said...

Beautiful girl, special mom. We'll be praying.

Jennifer said...

Oh Lori, my heart is BREAKING for her!(and for you!) And I am FURIOUS that this teacher is allowed to continue working with kids. I don't understand this. Surely you aren't the only one who has complained. Why hasn't she been observed and booted out? There is no excuse for that!

I don't remember if I've shared this with you before, but I had a teacher like that in middle school (Jr. High back then!) and he was horrid and made me feel the same way. But my DAD went and had a really long conference with the teacher and the principal. That man couldn't have been nicer the rest of the year, and retired at the end of that year. To this day, I don't know what was said in that meeting, but I know it put him in his place. There is no excuse for a teacher, who our children are supposed to trust, to treat any child that way.

I hate that you are having to go through this. I pray something is resolved QUICK and your Tink returns to her happier self, and it does no more damage to her little self esteem. I can't tell you how my heart is hurting for her. I will be praying.

Karen said...

This is so awful. No child should ever be treated this way.

Tink (and you) are definitely in my thoughts & prayers.

Melissa said...

As a former teacher, I know "who" you are talking about, and I'm very sorry for Tink. No child should be made to feel like that in the classroom. I'll pray for her, and for the administration - to get their act together (and quickly)!

Tara said...

Hey, Tink. I'm sorry you are having a hard time in school. Isn't it great though that you have a wonderful Mom and Dad who CHOSE you? Out of all the little girls in the world they picked you (and your sisters of course)! I imagine you must be one pretty remarkable little girl to be chosen by such wonderful people. Just a few more months of school, then you'll be free to run and jump and play in the sunshine all day long. Hang in there. You can do it!

Scribbit said...

Oh your poor little girl--what an awful thing to have to deal with. And with so many things to deal with already. I certainly hope it settles quickly!

WendyDarling said...

I cry just reading this post. I remember teachers like that from when I was working in the school system (and I had a teacher like that in the 3rd grade). My last year teaching I asked the principal why they kept a particularly harsh teacher that NO ONE liked and she said, "We are short on teachers. We have no choice."

I told her, "Well, I DO have a choice" and that is why I homeschool. :-) Have you ever considered homeschooling? I can tell that you are such a loving mother that you would be great at it. :-) It's just suggestion. :-)

Tara said...

I hopped on over here to find out how Tink was doing. As I was waiting for the post to load I thought of something Dobsen has said. Long and short, if a kid is having troubles (esp non-academic) in school you are under no obligation to keep them in that school. Move them to private school, another public school or as someone just mentioned, homeschool. I know there are just a few months of school left, but are any of those things you could consider???

Candace & Anna said...

Your poor sweet girl. I will certainly pray that everything will be resolved soon.

Teachin' this mommy new tricks! said...

OH sooo sorry to hear about this. I hope she and you are handling this well. Thank goodness she has a great family system at home!

Candace & Anna said...

Just wanted to let you know that I have a blessing for you at my blog.

I hope you all are doing well!