Thursday, May 03, 2007

Can we talk?

I haven't posted much of substance in the past few days, because I've sort of had "blogger's block." But it's not that I can't think of anything to blog. It's just that I've been shying away from anything that's not just generic and sunny. Here's why.

In the past several weeks, I've gotten e-mails about my blog, chastising me for, among other things,

~Criticizing my children.
~Playing favorites with my children.
~Criticizing American Idol contestants.
~Having scriptures on my blog but acting "less than Christian."

My disorganized but heartfelt response is this:

My children will never see this blog. Heck, only one and a half of them can read. Even so, I'm not criticizing my children. I'm talking about day-to-day experiences that are sometimes negative. I'm talking about things that affect me in a personal way. Sometimes that might be my children's behavior, good or bad; sometimes it's the jerk at CVS; sometimes it's a wonderful thunderstorm. I started this blog as a way to share my experiences and emotions, whether they be positive or negative.

I am not saying that my kids are rotten, in fact I'll beat anyone who says they're less than perfect. What I am saying is that my kids are not perfect, and they sometimes do things that are less than perfect. More importantly, I'm saying that I'm not perfect, and sometimes I react less than perfectly to their actions or words.

I don't play favorites with my children. I wrote a post a few weeks ago trying to express this, but maybe I did a less than satisfactory job. I am a human being who is not perfect. I love every one of my daughters, and every one of them is priceless to me. I don't find feel further explanation is necessary. What's important is that I, God, my husband and my children understand and believe this.

American Idol? Are you serious? It's something that America has fun talking about. And I'm gonna keep doing it. And I don't think it's unchristian to say that someone stunk it up. I just don't.

I have scriptures on my blog because I am a Christian. A Christian saved by grace who is imperfect. I believe God's word and am not ashamed of it. That is all.

I really do not understand people who feel compelled to criticize total strangers; I just don't get it at all. I also know that I am definitely far from the first that it's happened to. But it still hurt my feelings and made me gun-shy about what I posted. But no more.

My desire when I began writing here was to be able to be as honest as possible with regards to my feelings about my life, my family, my hair, my weight, and whatever affects me on a day-to-day basis. I will continue to do so. I hope you'll stick around.


Kelley said...

Oh, Lori...

I hate to hear when people experience criticism on their own blog site. Unfortunately, I know exactly how you must be feeling, because I've been hit by a good amount of jabs on my blog too. Just remember that people's judgments of others reflect more on themselves than the one they're trying to zing.

"Never explain...your friends do not need it and your enemies will not believe you anyway." ~ Elbert Hubbard

I don't even bother reading blogs of people who try to act like they DO have a perfect life - it's a waste of time because I just can't relate. But I love your honesty. Keep it up!

Kelley said...

PS - Chris DID stink it up! Just keepin' it real.

Wendy said...

I am sorry for people who have criticized. Makes an insy tiny weeny bit of you want to stop blogging. Good for you for doing what you feel is right!!

Jennifer said...

I just want to say that my mouth literally dropped when I read that list. I really can not believe some people! First of all, because I just don't see it! I've been reading your blog for a little while now, and I just don't see why anyone would say those things. I enjoy what you write, and blogs like yours make me feel like a normal mom/wife/person because you experience some of the same things. I'm just really dumbfounded here at the rudeness of some people and can't believe how judgmental some can be. I am so sorry. No one should have to feel that. And for the record, I LOVE your blog! Keep up exactly what you've been doing!

Redneck. Diva. said...

I believe it was Dr. Seuss that something to the effect of: say what you want and what is important to you because those who matter, don't mind and those who mind, don't matter.

You know who loves you. The rest of 'em .... send 'em over to my blog. Then watch the fur fly!


Beth said...

Just keep on blogging, Lori.

I have a firm belief that if someone does not like what I am saying, take the little mouse curser up to the upper right hand side of the screen and click on the big red X. If you don't like it, LEAVE!

I'm sorry that people feel that need to critize, nobody deserves that.